The opinions of others

 Too often we enjoy the comfort of opinion without the discomfort of thought.

Why is it that we hold the opinions of others on such high esteem?

How we look, how we act, what we say ( within reason) should simply be our choice.

And yet often its not. But why?

The need to fit in is normal and understandable; as humans we are a social bunch, but the opinions of others can hold you back from being the best you you can be.

But what is an opinion?

A view or judgement formed about something, not necessarily based on fact or knowledge.

It’s that last part we all seem to forget – “not necessarily based on fact or knowledge” which means opinions can and are often quite incorrect or transverse to reality and the facts.

The issue here is that the opinions and views of others affect how they see us, so based on fact or not they count for something and can force us to reconsider our actions as social approval is important.

In the interests of making every day fun and encouraging you to pursue your own happiness, I’m using this post to highlight the fact that opinions are not based on fact and to give them any credence which runs counter to your beliefs is a recipe for unhappiness.

Let me repeat that

I’m using this post to highlight the fact that opinions are not based on fact and to give them any credence which runs counter to your beliefs is a recipe for unhappiness.

  • If you have an idea for a gadget but your family and friends don’t like it but your market research says it will work – go for it.
  • If you like to pratice ballet but as a man your friends berate you and don’t understand – practice anyway and consider some new “friends”
  • If you want to do anything which means you are congruent with your beliefs, but perhaps incongruent to others’ opinions – go for it

If you give in to the opinions of others you are giving them the power to shape your life and to shape your happiness – why on earth would you want to freely hand over that power? You need to grasp it tightly if you are to have any chance of following your heart and achieving happiness.

I would say so long as you aren’t hurting others, or breaking the law, then you must always follow your heart and desires.

It takes courage and action, but the alternative is a life of mediocrity and unhappiness.

Just a thought.