Not everything deserves your attention.
I’m completing my first book, creating my first course and generally pulling together a large project which I have worked on for the past 2 years. As such my time is in demand and I need to prioritise accordingly.
I have always believed that every email must be replied to, every call returned and every request granted. I’m not sure who “sold me on that plan” as Jim Rohn would say, but nonetheless I feel many demands on my time.
The reality and the realisation is that not everything deserves my attention.
This is called “the do nothing alternative” and I found it in Rules of Thumb which I have been reading at my usual pace of 50 pages a day.
Rather than considering the lack of response “ignoring”, it’s an active choice. I am choosing where to focus my time and attention – which I am perfectly entitled to do – and it feels more defensible and confident than simply ignoring things which can leave you with feelings of guilt.
Someone famously said that your email inbox and the telephone are there for your convenience- not the convenience of those calling or emailing you.
This is true but it’s lost in a world gripped with the price of polite.
Focussing on yourself may not be “polite” per Se but it’s certainly not rude. The only person you owe your attention to is you, anything else is a disservice.
With this in mind I put my projects and my plans first, I am courteous and cordial when declining emails phone calls and invitations which don’t sit with my goals, but I am firm.
This website, my book and other projects I have in the pipeline are centred on this thinking. Putting yourself first and not trying to please everyone regardless of the request are the ways to progress, to creation and to adding value to the world.
When all is said and done and I look back on my life- I will notice what I achieved and not how many people I sought to please.
Just a thought..